Sexuality: A nexus of passion or a nemesis, bestiality?

The media keeps you updated with it regularly. With it, we have other sources, trials, attempts and even in colloquial that makes you stand in the realm of this discomforting confusion.

The definition of this term is, therefore, cocooned and lost somewhere in the woods, yes, from the same woods where apes were evolved into human beings!

This guy has got a habit of extravagantly showing the contraceptive sheaths remaining with him after he having been with his girl friend and asking friends to tell him if they needs one of those!
He was poked by somebody that this matter is extremely personal and as all of them have some familiarity with his girl friend, every words and action by him seems too bashful and obnoxious! To which, the guy replied as if a wizard "As Indians do not talk openly about sexuality, this is why we face so much problem!"

No, this guy is not psychologically challenged, both his girl friend and he is working in reputed organizations in good capacity. The problem is with the understanding of the term.

Male sexuality was said to have understood in India as "an extrovert exhibition of sexual desires and an exorbitantly adamant attitude to bring malice into it anyway." But, as more female counterparts of the human society has started coming up with artistic shows of female sexual appeal, other females never involved in such profession have also started taking it as their religion.

For most of today's young men and may be for a few overlapping generations, sexuality would tend to mean a broken down lawn way in respect to rectitude, principle, virtue or decency.

Gradually, society has started accepting the kinds that were labelled as "profane" even a decade ago. There are at least 4/5th of the planet's population who would say "what's wrong in it?"

Obviously, if somebody can boast the power of appearance by resembling an ideal of the particular sex species which most wants to adopt, what's the harm?

If somebody wants to be futile in respect that sex is seen as only to reproduce and wants add-ons with his partner's consent, nobody else's business can it ever be!

But, what if one's fantasy of being a perfect ideal by involving the treasure troves of sexual life gets stirred into practical implementations, and that's too when the ideal of the opposite sex is not in consent?
More so, none of the set of ideal from the opposite sex is ready for a consensual application by the other?

(..to be continued)

B School woes: Exposure, Experiments and Placement

INMANTEC




Dr. Vinod Dumblekar

(original post: http://www.facebook.com/groups/36958474701/doc/10150424282644702/)

Hi all!

I thought to write this in my blog but found this place to be the best to share my views. A little description about myself goes like this: I came to INMANTEC from Kolkata, India after completing Graduation in Commerce and serving Abcon, a tax consultant firm based in Central Calcutta for more than a year. I studied business management here and used to stay in the campus hostel Room 203. This room along with CRD (the placement department) and the IRC (library) used to be my favorite places in the campus. After spending a few months working with HDFC Bank's relationship manager, I joined the college looking after Admission, Placement and a little bit of Training as well.

It won't sound good if I talk about studies and exposure and the piece may appear too monotonous for the present students to read! I would, therefore, narrate it as if I am quoting a specific timeline from my life, thanks to the latest idea by FB!

Four things and certainly four most indispensable gifts I always cherish to get back once again in my life (if it comes to INMANTEC) will be:

→My seniors - They were a pack of talented and well-read people with a clannish capability of inspiring people and coming out as leaders. They have left a priceless imprint on my life. And yes, the possessiveness that I still show, quite adamantly, for the college was something that I learned from them. They gave their best efforts as they shared the onus of flourishing different clubs and committee and instigated all of us to contribute in our own ways.

→My batch mates - I was blessed to have got a huge friend base who were not only my companions, they were my greatest critic, each of us were fans of each other and there was a strange respect that I found prevailing among us. And there were hustles, extra-classes and pressure-cooker atmosphere but we did survive as we did it together. There were negative stuffs as well, but we showed the maturity to tackle them efficiently.

→CRD - From the second week in college as a student, I was in close association with the department and enjoyed discussions, planning and implementation of certain things till when I left (a couple of months back after serving the college, I'll write about it at the end).

→Dr. Vinod Dumblekar - I could recall one of my English professors back in Kolkata, Mr. Mihir Bose who once told me that a 70 percentile in English in CAT is just a conceptual clarity. After it, comes one's power of application, speed and accuracy and well-thought planning. I never understood what that was till I started attending Dumblekar Sir's lectures. There was a certain woe before going for his classes as our seniors warned us, "He wants everything to be too perfect." I can write a book on his classes as I never missed to note down a single word spoken by him. But for now, there are a few things I often practice and suggest others to do as well. He always talked about improving smaller areas of work, to do repetition in order to check whether it is reaching a desired level of perfection, to read a certain text and summarize it to check whether the important message is falling in place or if the writing is going astray, to play with numbers, to practice and recall figures (numbers) as they brings out the most accurate picture in front. He taught us how to build skills → competency → competitive advantage by helping us analyze different corporate miniatures, business news and cases. Yet, he warned us to stay away from stereotype and once mentioned to "attack case study method" of teaching.

Words would fall short if I start writing about all this, but in a nutshell, he showed us that no one is perfect as we give up before reaching the target, and being perfect is indeed, not a cakewalk!

The twist of my tale starts right from here. Somebody can back fire "is this all for which you spent so much? ("not only bucks, boss it's also about time and commitment!!!).

Although I was never caught for less number of classes attended et al, still if I wouldn't have attended classes, isn't this enough one can get from a business school? Certainly, attending classes and respecting lecturers is the most important idiom of decorum. But, what's the use in being clones as you are taught leadership, power-thinking, group cohesiveness and team building, calculations and Microsoft excel in lectures? One should actuate all these stuffs by experimenting in real life.

I remember Subhrajit Sir (Das), our senior telling me "ki re parbi toh" (would you be able to do it?) before the final round of debate competition between INMANTEC and Dainik Jagran on Disaster Management and I replied, "don't you worry, I spent at least 5 years imitating how Harsha Bhogle, Prannoy Roy and Rajdeep Sardesai (Arnab in Times Now is also doing excellent these days) speaks and addresses issues on television and by now, its my forte".. and that was the beginning of another uncompromising score!

I had longed to be in media and communication since the time I started coming up as an elocution and essay-competition winner in school. But what would be the steps? The first step, was of course, taken from my side. Unrelenting practice of cricket commentaries, imitating and photocopying, till I started adding colors to my way of speaking and writing! And, by getting the best mentoring from several others (back in my hometown) and Dumblekar Sir, I am still trying to squeeze and bring out the best of innovation.

My first job in Delhi was a tough experience, yet, it couldn't stop me (and several others like me as success cannot be defined in a day, it comes gradually) from continuing my practice-in-recluse till once when I came across a strange mail in the LoNo account of HDFC where it provided wrong information about the composition of national anthem. The only author I read profoundly (and meticulously) was Tagore and it took 7-8 minutes of time amidst the busiest scheduling to mark a fitting reply to the mail. A lot of appreciation followed in, even from the deadliest supervisors we had in the office and soon, I secured my position of respect earned back in no time!

When I worked with CRD, I noticed several students with fumbled English and poor standards of writing. Although, I was never directly involved in training, I was eager to help them. I got back to Dumblekar Sir and he instantly replied back "more face book, more youtube and more reading newspapers" and yes, I was also assuming something like this. I told some of the students to do a lot of mirror work on their way of talking and grooming, by imagining them as cricketers with awe-inspiring innings played and to talk about it just as we watch cricketers doing it. Unless self learned, its never learned!

For all the students who are currently studying in INMANTEC, three advices you can buy from me:

→Take the first boldest step and believe me or not, you got to take it! Walk in with your own confidence and success would keep opening avenues for you

→ Business schools generally provide support to your thirst of growth and prosperity. It did the same with all alumni doing great businesses now. It never created great marketers and sales coordinators, finance gurus and sophisticated HRs, it has only helped them to reach where they always wanted to go

→ Be the alter ego to your lecturers and placement team; without your noodles shared, they won't be able to come up with their soups! Be in constant touch with placement team from the first day and come up with new ideas (Like, I had several points of difference with Anurag Sir when he was in placement, but he always loved me as he knew my proposals does hold a value and Awanish, my batch mate, who used to disappoint Dumblekar Sir with lots of questions, but probably Sir ended up taking good care of him in class!)

I feel I have a strong attachment to CRD to the extent of unexplainable fondness. During interactions with 09-11 PGDM at the time of their placements, I got too close to them especially with the lot aspiring for FMCG, Pharma and Financial Analysts. They were my juniors and a batch proportionately balancing frolic and serious notes of affairs. Most of them, to my stupefying comfort, were prepared psychologically either to embrace the challenge or to bowl it over. I know many of them gradually climbing the ladders of success.

One might be able to understand the person on the other side of the table. I don’t know how much as a team we did for them and how warm it seemed to them, but it was quite easy for us. This happened only because they used to come up with proposals, suggestions, pitch and tender. I sensed their voices in various aspects of placements and tried to make things happen likewise.

Due to a clear road with no blockades from either side, we criticized each other and I can say with a bold conviction, whatever success was summoned, it happened because students worked like a team. I was also at the gaining end as our ED Sir had provided me with every liberty to listen to them and plan accordingly. As they were eager to understand and empathize, things became even easier! I deny being awkward about anything I was called for and I couldn’t provide, as Rome cannot be built in a day, but the quantum of success was only due to my heart-out interactions with their batch.

There could be more of such profitable encounters, but one has to come up addressing both of his strong points and weaker aspects!

The end boils down to advertisement of cooking oils. They say “zero cholesterol” and “zero obesity” when cholesterol and adiposity is inside our body. And not only oil, it is a well-planned diet that can outcast diseases. Plan well and it will pay off well, have confidence and faith in you: hum mein hain hero!